I would say the first thing the couple should know about swinging is that it will not work if one of you, usually the woman, does not really want to participate and is only doing so to please their partner, this can lead to all kinds of personal problems.

That doesn’t mean that one partner might not need a little prodding, a tiny amount of pushing to want to get involved, many people want to try this kind of thing but are too embarrassed or shy, or just ‘don’t think it’s right,’ even though they would like to give it a try.

The first time that you meet up with swingers at a party, or club or private meeting, you should always bear in mind that you under the obligation, that you do not have to do anything you don’t want to, or don’t feel comfortable with many people don’t do anything the first time.

Many people come to a club to find out what it’s like, what kind of people go there, or if they feel comfortable in that environment, some people will go several times before feeling confident enough, or comfortable enough, to join in.

So you should never feel under any pressure to do anything you don’t want to do.  If you have your own rules, that both of you have agreed to, you should stick to them, for example, you should definitely discuss things like safe sex, and anything that you would not be happy with your partner being involved with.

And you should stick to those agreements, at least until you both feel they might want to change the rules are little after some experience.  You will be surprised that most people at swingers clubs are regular people, ordinary people, just like your neighbours, and you.

Swingers are not different from anyone else, they’re just ordinary people with an interest in sex that is just a tiny bit unusual, that doesn’t mean that the people themselves are any different than anybody else.

Posted: February 15th, 2008 under Swinger Blogs.
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It’s hard to describe how I feel after we have been to a swingers party or club, it’s a complicated mixture of all kinds of things, first, like any guy, after sex I feel like I want to go to sleep, but I don’t, because the adrenalin is still running through my body, so I am exhausted and tired, but at the same time, wide-awake, and excited.

I always feel physically drained and emotionally tired, I also always have, lots of exciting images, flying around in my head, I have real trouble coming down and relaxing afterwards, it is just an overload of hormones and excitement, and pictures in my mind.

My wife is always exactly the same, perhaps just more excited and ‘ high’ than I am, when we get home she is usually bouncing around the house doing stupid things, like the washing up, I think she is feeling the same as I am, just at that is how it comes out of her.

We don’t go out swinging all often so I think we both have a real build-up of sexual and emotional feelings that are let loose so quickly and so completely it is just mentally draining.

The only thing I can compare it to is being 16 or 18, and the first couple of girls that let you have sex with them, the excitement is uncontrollable and almost painful, and that is what is so hard to come down from.

I think, because we are not regulars, doing this every week it works better for us, as a between our swinging sessions our conversations and memories keep our sex life very much alive and kicking.

We both feel that swinging is not an alternative to our sex life, it is an added part that keeps the sex between us fresh and new, as it never gets boring or predictable, and we always have new sexual experience to talk about with each other, neither of us can imagine no longer being involved in the scene

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My wife and I have been, I would say, on the edge of the swinging scene for several years, I think a long time we didn’t know what we wanted, we just knew we needed something a little different, we went to swinging places, but generally, just made out with each other, usually with people watching.

Then about a year ago, someone suggested that as we didn’t like to join in, and basically were exhibitionists, perhaps ‘dogging’ would suit us, we said perhaps it would, though he would need to explain its to us first, as we have never heard the word before.

Well a quick search of the Internet, found a couple of sites within easy reach of where we live, but not too close, if you know what I mean. So the following Friday evening we went to a car park about 20 miles from my house.

There were three other cars parked there and five or six people stood around watching, we stayed at the edge of the car park for about 30 minutes, watching the goings on, before driving forward and parking up ourselves.

Luckily, we have a big estate car Ideal for this new activity, we decided not to be shy and climbed straight into the back of the car, the seats were already down in anticipation, we quickly got undressed, strangely enough that was something I didn’t want people to see.

Within a couple of minutes, we were having pretty slow and careful sex then I noticed a face at the partly open back window, then another on the other side of the car.

Suddenly, we both became excited and started to get a lot wilder with our love making, in fact we were really going at it like wild animals, it wasn’t to sure, but there seemed that, we had a crowd around the car for a good 30 minutes.

I must say that this has become our main sexual interest now; it fulfils everything we need, by being exhibitionists, but without being involved with anyone else, and its plain good fun.

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My buddy Steve and I were out drinking late one night, and the conversation fell around to girlfriends, I thought his girlfriend Sheila was a stunner and I had never made a secret of the fact to Steve.

But until he told me that night, I was not aware that he had serious hot’s for Karen, my girlfriend of two years, I made an off-the-cuff remark that we should swap them for the night, which was just one of those stupid drunken things that you say.

Anyway, the week later, we are back at the same bar, and Steve says to me that he spoke to Sheila, and she would be interested, and had I asked Karen? Well, I hadn’t, as it was only a joke, so he said, “well maybe I should ask her.”

I found the right moment a few days later and asked Karen if she was attracted to Steve and would she sleep with him she was single, to which she replied “in a heartbeat” I told her about stupid drunken conversation, and then when she didn’t react badly to that, I told her about second conversation.

That weekend, Sheila invited us around their house for dinner, it was obvious all evening, what all four of us were thinking, and I also had a feeling that the two girls had had a conversation behind our backs about the situation.

I figured this because after a few hours Karen said that we were staying overnight, then Shiela said she was off to bed, well, my heart sank, but it soon picked up again, when she looked me straight in the eye and asked if I was coming with her?

That was the first time that we had swapped partners, and I have to say it was amazing, Sheila was every bit as good as I thought she would be, just amazing in bed and so sexy.

Our relationship was carried on since then, and our friendship has got even stronger, the four of us are always seen as an item now, but I don’t think anybody realises just how close friends we are.

Posted: February 15th, 2008 under Swinger Blogs.
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Ok I will admit to being just a little curious, like anybody, I guess, you get to thinking, and what would it be like to try something new? After you’ve been having sex for 20 odd years it can be difficult to make it different.

My husband had asked me about swinging even before we were married, back then I found the whole idea appalling, but as you get older you change your mind about many things. And after a kind of close encounter with a couple of friends of ours, I agreed, on the condition that there could be no possibility of anyone finding out.

At that time were planning annual holidays, and my husband suggested there may be a good place to have a holiday and to try swinging, so the booked two weeks in Thailand. I could see as soon as we got there, and my husband was thrilled with all the young looking beautiful Thai women around.

On the third night, we went to a club that my husband had found on the Internet and must I must say, despite my worries I was very excited at the prospect of going such a place, when we went in to the club is seemed like any other nightspot, lots of people drinking and dancing, mostly foreign men with Thai girls.

After an hour we were approached by an Australian guy who asked us to sit with him and his Thai girlfriend.  He was very handsome in that classic Aussie way and I could see that my husband was nearly drooling over his beautiful girlfriend.

They invited us back to their hotel, and with an incredible mixture of nervousness and excitement, I agreed. We had a couple drinks from the minibar, my husband was pretty drunk by now, and had his arm around the Thai girl, and I was watching them as they began to kiss.

My new Aussie partner took that as his cue and before I knew it I was having wild sex on one bed, my husband and the Thai girl doing the same in the other bed,  It didn’t take a moment for me to get over my nerves, and really enjoy myself.

We met up several more times during the holiday, sometimes, just for a meal other times for some more fun, but that was definitely the most exciting holiday I ever had.

Posted: February 15th, 2008 under Swinger Blogs.
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