It’s hard to describe how I feel after we have been to a swingers party or club, it’s a complicated mixture of all kinds of things, first, like any guy, after sex I feel like I want to go to sleep, but I don’t, because the adrenalin is still running through my body, so I am exhausted and tired, but at the same time, wide-awake, and excited.

I always feel physically drained and emotionally tired, I also always have, lots of exciting images, flying around in my head, I have real trouble coming down and relaxing afterwards, it is just an overload of hormones and excitement, and pictures in my mind.

My wife is always exactly the same, perhaps just more excited and ‘ high’ than I am, when we get home she is usually bouncing around the house doing stupid things, like the washing up, I think she is feeling the same as I am, just at that is how it comes out of her.

We don’t go out swinging all often so I think we both have a real build-up of sexual and emotional feelings that are let loose so quickly and so completely it is just mentally draining.

The only thing I can compare it to is being 16 or 18, and the first couple of girls that let you have sex with them, the excitement is uncontrollable and almost painful, and that is what is so hard to come down from.

I think, because we are not regulars, doing this every week it works better for us, as a between our swinging sessions our conversations and memories keep our sex life very much alive and kicking.

We both feel that swinging is not an alternative to our sex life, it is an added part that keeps the sex between us fresh and new, as it never gets boring or predictable, and we always have new sexual experience to talk about with each other, neither of us can imagine no longer being involved in the scene